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What mistakes you make while writing with HER

Thanks to my new consulting here on Champlife, I get a lot of chats sent to me, which I then discuss with the Champs. I noticed a pattern in many of them. Mistakes that keep repeating. Mistakes that far too many of us make.

And that's what today's post is about. What mistakes you make when writing with women and how you can prevent them.

In my Instagram story (@ninochamp) yesterday you could read the following:


You as a man, you have to be the one who speaks to the woman, who establishes body contact, who makes the first kiss, you have to invite her. You have to take the initiative. You have to lead.

You can be the master in everything else. As smooth as James Bond, as confident as McGregor. But until you start leading, your results will not be there in women.

If you like a girl and she likes you but you don't dare to take the step, you let her down.

At the beginning she will NEVER say: please kiss me, please touch me, please write me that we should do something.

It is your task. You are the man. Do your duty and make her happy.

But what do I see in your chat history? You do not lead, you submit. You put them on the pedestal. You wag your tails and hope that she will throw you a bone as a reward.

Showing submissive behavior is as appealing to a woman as sand in her urethra.

If you want to seduce a woman, you have to do it from a position of superiority. Women are hypergamic. This means that if you want her to kneel in front of you with her mouth open, then you mustn't see yourself under her and of course she can't see you either.

When dealing with a girl, ask yourself the following:

"Would I do anything to sleep with her?"

If the answer to that is yes, then you've already lost.

Putting yourself above a woman means that you know your worth as a man. And for that you don't have to look like a Greek god in his prime. But you have to know that you are worth at least that much.

Here are a few examples of chat conversations that we all had more or less when we were still in the Soyboy business.

1. Write too much unnecessary shit

“Hi Melanie, I just wanted to tell you that you looked really, really good today. I couldn't stop looking at you. I just had to write that to you, after all, you have to know how pretty you are. "

When you write like this, you reduce the value of yourself and what you have to say to the immeasurable. You repeat yourself unnecessarily and think that if you worship her like only a kebab deserves, she will like you. Or I.

Listen, Champ: Better not to write anything and just go on a date than to force conversations every day. I know you are afraid that she will leave then. But it won't.

So what can you write if you want to pay her a serious compliment?

"You looked good."

Less is more. It shows her that you are not insecure and that you are not afraid that she would move on if you did not write her a 7-page poem.

2. Make things more complicated than they are

“Hey, I thought about it, we've known each other for a long time and write a lot, maybe we could go to the cinema together? We'd be sure to have a good time and enjoy it. After that we could go out to eat if you like? I am sure you would have a lot of fun doing it. "

I know you are honest and you say what you really think, but in reality you just sound like her little sister. Women don't want that. They think they want to, but they don't want to. I also think I want to eat 2 kilos of ice cream now. But after 400g I feel sick. This is how every woman feels after the 2nd sentence. Apart from this, "maybe" and "Sometimetimes”Don't go at all. When should that be? Today? In a year? 2054? Be precise.

"Let's see Wolf of Wall Street on Friday night."

Boom. Straight to the point. The whole thing around it just shows that you're afraid she would say no. It shows that you have to convince them differently because you are not worth it on your own.

3. Asking you for a decision

“Hey, what would you like to do tonight? How about Italian or Turkish? What are you after? "

Again, you have to lead. You're asking for their approval here. It shows her that you have no balls to make any decisions.

“Let's go out to eat on Friday. I know a place that has the perfect steak. "

No question of approval. Getting to the point quickly. And also a mysterious flair.

4. Generally ask for their opinion

"How did you find it yesterday? ..."

Seriously, don't shit.

I have to read as often as you ask the woman for her opinion about the date and about you.

What do you think is going to happen?

Either she lies to you because she is not mean or she says it was good and means it.

But if it was good, it was also good without you having to ask stupidly.

And if it wasn't good, it won't do you any good to ask because she's not telling the truth anyway. So just stop. You have to learn to look at her like that. In reality, you're only asking because you want your confirmation anyway. That, in turn, just shows her how insecure you feel.

Understand that you need to get to the root of this problem.

You have to change your mindset in order to achieve the desired success.

You have to develop yourself as a person.

You have to get better.

In a year, two or three years you don't want to be as good as you are today.


That's why you're reading this, that's why you're evolving.

That's why I learn every day, that's why I take coaching. So that I don't have to wait 2-3 years and only learn when it's too late.

I want to help you address this directly. Without waiting any longer. In my new coaching I offer you to ask me all the questions you have.

To bring all my knowledge closer to you and to explain it. I don't just show you the answers, I explain the thinking behind them. Only then can you apply it to yourself in any situation.

If my contributions have already helped you and you are ready to go a step further, I look forward to meeting you personally on Skype soon.