Men, what makes a woman unmarried

It's in the book El-Ichtiyar (Freedom of action) in the following: wedding is called marriage contract. The holy Quran prescribes that the wedding ceremony be performed. The third sacred verse of the sura Nisâ (the women) means analogously: Marry the women who are allowed to you! or the twenty-third verse of the same sura: And don't prevent her from marrying someone else! And the thirty-second holy verse of the sura Just (the light of faith) has the following meaning: Marry the single among you! A sacred hadith prescribed: The wedding ceremony may only be carried out in the presence of witnesses! Marry and multiply! On the Day of Resurrection, I will be proud of you in relation to the other communities! Wedding is my way of life (Sunnah). Those who make my way of life (Sunna) leave, do not belong to us! The holy verses or hadiths and the agreement of the Islamic scholars report that marriage is part of worship. It is forbidden to live in wild marriage. Anyone who underestimates the wedding ceremony will be incredulous. The wedding ceremony is a required obligation. Sometimes it becomes indispensable. When anguish and suffering are to be feared, it becomes undesirable. The marriage is expressed through the utterance of two believers in the past; e.g .: If a woman wishes: "Accept me as your wife!" said the man should give his answer below: "I have accepted you as my wife." The wedding ceremony may also be valid with other expressions. The marriage of idolaters or apostates is not valid. According to the Hanefî law school, either two Muslim witnesses or one Muslim witness and two Muslim witnesses should be present at the Muslim wedding. When a Muslim marries a Christian or a Jew, witnesses of the woman's faith may be present. Although it is not necessary to discuss the dowry in order for the marriage to be valid, the husband should immediately pay out the dowry, which must be paid in advance, after the ritual ceremony, if his wife requests it. For this reason, the dowry to be paid in advance or not to be paid in advance must be determined at the wedding ceremony. To do this, you make a dowry contract, signed by the groom and two witnesses, and give it to the bride. The normal value of the dowry is between ten and fifty gold pieces. Although Islam gives a man the right to divorce, it is almost impossible to exercise that right. Because if the man divorces his wife, he should immediately pay off the dowry and provide for his sons up to the age of seven or his daughters up to the age of marrying and give the necessary money to their mother without interruption; if he does not pay this money, he should be locked up in earthly life and go to hell in the hereafter.

A man is forever forbidden to marry his mother, his daughters, his sister, his aunts and the daughters of his siblings, no matter how far they are from him. Likewise, the man is forbidden to marry his mother-in-law and her mothers, his daughter-in-law, his foster daughter and his stepmother. Getting married to more than four wives and wives is also forbidden. A Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian or a Jew who does not worship creatures. (In the book Ni’met-i İslâm says the following: It is not necessary that the witnesses at the wedding of the written owners are necessarily Muslims. A Muslim husband can prevent his Jewish or Christian wife from attending church and making wine at home. But he must not force her to do ritual washing after menstruation and the puerperium. It is recommended that the woman wear Islamic clothing. It is better for a Muslim to marry a Jewish or Christian woman who dresses in Islamic clothing.) He must not marry women of other faiths and apostates. A Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man. Marriage Müt’a, fixed-term marriage, white with Shiites, is also forbidden. Fixed-term marriage means entering into a contract with a woman to live in a wild marriage for a specified period of time. It's nothing more than having a mistress.

The statements made by women at the wedding are valid. I.e. a marriageable girl or woman may get married or be married by her guardian or representative. [A wife cannot divorce herself and others.] A virgin cannot be forced to marry. The guardian should obtain the consent of the girl in order to carry out the wedding ceremony. If the girl does not answer, or laughs or softly cries, it is understood that she gives her consent. A widow, on the other hand, should give verbal consent in order to marry her. A girl's guardian may be the next heir. If there is no close heir, the girl's mother or next heir may be the guardian. If this does not exist, the judge is his guardian. Children and unbelievers are not allowed to be guardians of Muslims. You can be a guardian or representative from both sides. Bride and groom must be a match for schooling, piety, social standing, and wealth. If the girl of a righteous Muslim is married to a sinner, his guardian may refuse this marriage. The translation from the book Ichtijâr (Freedom of action) has been accomplished here.

The custom of marriage has existed since the time of the prophet Adam, peace be upon him. In order for the wedding to be valid, like any worship, one must express one's intention. Those who are to be married must intimately intend to be married according to the commandment of Allah the Most Exalted or according to the Sunna of the Holy Prophet. You don't have to confuse Islamic marriage and civil marriage. Islamic marriage is the commandment of Allah, the Most High. And the civil marriage is a legal process. The conditions of both are different. It is a grave sin not to perform an Islamic marriage. Getting married without a civil ceremony is also a criminal offense. Whoever commits this act is punished with imprisonment. A Muslim or a Muslim may not commit sin and should obey the law. Violating the law is a criminal offense that can cause civil unrest or discord. That is forbidden in Islam. It is not forbidden in Islam to perform civil weddings. The law does not prohibit the Islamic marriage. At the time of the Ottoman Empire, both were used. The decree of 1298 (1880 AD) reads as follows: "Marriages, births and deaths should be registered in a civil registry." The penalties of those who prayed for an Islamic marriage without permission can be seen on page 2434 of the State Protocol of the Ottoman Empire. Therefore every Muslim must first be civilly and then Islamically married. It is not absolutely necessary to be married by a clergyman. Righteous, learned Muslims are allowed to marry in an Islamic manner. Atheists and lost people call Islamic weddings as pre-weddings because they despise them. They claim that it is not necessary to be married in an Islamic way if one is to be married in a civil ceremony. They deceive Muslims by spreading the lie that Islamic marriage is forbidden by law. However, the Islamic marriage is allowed. It is a criminal offense not to be civilly married. They slander marriage by claiming that it is not necessary to be married in Islam; it is not in the holy Koran. Anyone who refuses to marry like that one becomes incredulous. Such a person is like someone who denies one of the five tenets of Islam. In order for the Islamic marriage to be valid, the bride and groom must be believers. This is the most important of the conditions of Islamic marriage. Therefore, before the wedding, one must ask whether the bride and groom know the six principles of faith and the five principles of Islam. If not, you have to do this and the creed instruct and let speak. You have to have theirs first Renew faith and then marry them. The witnesses must also be believers. Islamic marriage causes the wife and husband to live happily. Every Muslim and every Muslim must attach great importance to the wedding ceremony if they wish that their descendants will become believers and righteous and achieve happiness in this and the hereafter.

In the book Dürr-ul-muchtar (The Chosen) on the theme of “marriage of the unbeliever”, if a woman apostates for no reason or in order to get divorced, she must be imprisoned by the judge to renew her faith. The scholars from Bukhara said so. So is the legal opinion. The Belch scholars stated that if a woman became an apostate and then renounced, a woman's marriage is valid. According to the information in the book Newâdir (Rare utterances) a woman who is apostate becomes a serf servant in the Islamic land. Her husband buys them from the prince of the faithful. So make her a serf servant. St. Omar, peace be upon him, whipped a woman who had been singing to men. When it was said that her head was exposed in the process, he said that she was no longer venerable. Ebû Bekr bin Omar Belchî [Ebu Bekr bin Omar Belchî, d. 559 (1165 AD)] one of the scholars of Islamic law, walked past the women who were washing clothes by the river with their bare heads and bare arms, and then said: They are no longer venerable because they disregard Islam's commandment to cover up. Your belief is doubtful. They are like slaves captured in a non-Islamic country. This is one of the rare utterances. It is better to follow the statements of the scholars rather than infrequent statements and to act accordingly. In this way, a woman does not become a servant, but the wife of her husband, in case her belief is somehow doubtful.

St. İbni Âbidin, peace be upon them, said: It is better, because it is troublesome, not to act according to the scholars from Bukhara but to obey the scholars from Belch. The Islamic countries occupied by Genghis Khan became non-Islamic countries. In a non-Islamic country there is no need to act on infrequent statements. The women who were called slaves after rare statements regarding St. Omar and Ebu Bekr bin Omar Belchî, peace be upon them, must not be considered slaves in the Islamic country. Rare utterances are not entirely certain. You don't have to follow them unless you are forced to. Since an apostate in the Islamic country becomes a servant after rare utterances, one must not look at her bare arms and her bare head and sleep with her as a servant. Whores are like that in an Islamic country, because they are unchaste, one is not allowed to have sexual intercourse with them. This is considered adultery.

A Muslim is not allowed to attend any woman except his wife and servant. If the Muslim lives unmarried with a Muslim or non-Muslim in an Islamic or non-Islamic country, it is considered adultery. Adultery is a grave sin. Although one may look at the head, arms and feet of another servant's servant, sexual intercourse is forbidden. According to Islamic law, there is no serf servant in the world today. Except for the eighteen women who make you forever forbidden are to be married, no parts of the body of the Muslim or non-Muslim women are allowed to look except at their faces and hands, be it sensual or not. It is forbidden that the women are seen in inappropriate clothing by the men who do not belong to the family or close relatives and that they chat and be friends with them.

On the subject of “secured” of the book Dürr-ül Muchtar stands: It is forbidden to attend the non-Muslim women of the Muslim prisoners, and the secured in the non-Islamic country. You are not allowed to have sexual relations with any woman except your wife or servant in Islamic land. No woman in the Islamic land may be made a servant. Non-Muslim women in non-Islamic countries are also not allowed to be made servants as long as they are not brought to an Islamic country.

The text “Divorce” in the book Dürr-ül Muchtar reads: According to the four schools of law, a man who has divorced his wife three times or pronounced the word for divorce three times may only remarry his previous wife if she has entered into a marriage with another man and has been divorced from him again . This intermarriage is called Shell. You cannot force the second husband to divorce his wife. And it is forbidden to propose it, provided that the second husband marries the wife with the intention of divorce. But if the second man has voluntarily intended to first marry the woman in question, then to divorce her, it is not forbidden. In fact, it's a good deed. If the marriage of the first man is invalid after four legal schools, he should initiate the intermarriage after three divorces. If the requirements for the marriage of the first husband have not been fully met, for example if the guardian was not present at the wedding and witnesses were sinners, after three divorces he must turn to a clergyman in the Schafiî law school to have his wife without an intermediate marriage to be allowed to remarry. The Shafiite clergyman or mufti tells him that his marriage was valid in the past after the Shafiî law school, but is no longer valid because of the three-time divorce and that, according to the Shafiite doctrine, he may remarry the woman in question.

St. Ibni Abidin, peace be upon him, said: A marriage with sinful witnesses or without the consent of the guardian is not valid according to the Shafiite school of law. In the book Tuchfet-ül-muchtâdsch (Mental healing of the needy) stands:

In order to free someone from the intermarriage, the mufti declares the previous marriage to be valid. The husband and wife may be married again after Shafiî law school. St. Ibni Kasım, peace be upon him, writes the following for the explanation of the book Tuchfet-ül-muchtâdsch: One can be married again after the law school Shafiî. The intermarriage will not be necessary. The number of divorces is a maximum of three. If their number is more than three, it counts as three.

The text in the explanation of the book Emâlî Kasîdesi states: If one says something drunk or unconsciously that causes disbelief, one does not become disbelieving or apostate. If you divorce your wife while drunk, the divorce will be valid. It is the same with buying or selling. If you are drunk or unconsciously say something that causes disbelief, you do not become disbelieving or apostate. If you have spoken or written three times as an apostate that you have divorced your wife, you should renew your faith and be married again. Because while one is apostate, one's marriage no longer counts either. Anyone who has not fulfilled the conditions for his marriage will not divorce his wife by having divorced three times. He should meet the requirements for the wedding and be married and renounce his sins. If his marriage is valid after his law school and invalid after the other three law schools, he must imitate the law school in question and be married again. To get rid of the intermarriage one has to come up with one of these three solutions; this is called Hîle-i scher’ijje.

Although Allah Most High allows the divorce to be pronounced, He does not like its fulfillment. Even if you pronounce this word as fun, you have to bear its consequences. In order not to get used to uttering this word, Allah the Most High has prescribed that men endure the agony of intermarriage. A believing husband never utters the word of intermarriage thinking of its torment.

[A widow orVirgo is to be cared for by her father. If the father dies or is unable to do so, one of the rich men who is forever forbidden to marry her should take over this task. If they don't take care of it, the required money will be taken from them by state authority and given to her. If the widow or virgin has no relatives, the state should allocate her a salary. Because in Islam women are not forced to earn money. All women's needs must be met by those concerned.]

The last section of the book Ni’met-i Islam (Happiness of Islam) says as follows: A serf servant may be married with the permission of her master. A serf servant who has a child from her master is called Umm-i weled. It is forbidden to sell you or your child. When her master dies, his servant becomes free. Your children have inheritance rights. A foster child is not a biological child of his foster father. The marriage ban for close relatives does not apply to the foster child. But it applies to the milk siblings.


In the Turkish book Nimet-i Islam stands: That child that is up to two and a half years old by a woman, if only breastfed once, is called Rıda (Consent). This woman is considered to be the nurse for the breastfed child and her husband as the nurse's husband, regardless of whether she is nourished with her milk directly or through a feeding bottle. She and her close relatives are never allowed to marry this child, but they must look after them like their blood relatives. They have no mutual rights of inheritance. Two children under the age of two become milk siblings if they have been breastfed by the same woman. You are not allowed to marry each other. All blood or milk sister relatives of the wet nurse apply to the children she feeds, as her close relatives and their children as her siblings. Milk siblings are not allowed to have one another, but siblings of their milk siblings are allowed to marry. If two children are breastfed by two women who belong to the same husband, these children become milk siblings because of the common marital amen. You are not allowed to marry each other. If these two children are girls, you cannot marry both of them at the same time. When it comes to being a me-sibling, one should even consider the marital relationship. This is called Hurmet-i Musâhere. For example, the divorced woman, the one breastfed by his wife, may not be married forever. Likewise, a woman is forever forbidden to marry the divorced husband of a woman who was nurtured by her. The word; “The milk does not flow upwards but downwards! Doesn't suit Islam. A girl and a boy who are nourished by different breasts of a woman are allowed to marry each other. If two women have children after they have mutually nursed their previous children, the children born later may marry each other, provided that they were not nourished by the same breast of their wet nurse. The infant's relatives are not considered relatives to his wet nurse and her husband. For example, the nurse's brother may marry the baby's sister.

A man is allowed to marry the mother of his milk siblings who have been breastfed by his mother. But the siblings who belong to the same father and different mothers are not allowed to marry their close relatives. A man may never marry the mother of his siblings or stepdaughters for ever.

By confession or Evidence you can tell whether two people are milk siblings. If a husband confesses that his wife is his milk sister, their marriage is no longer valid. Two righteous men or one man and two women are considered witnesses. Just two women or a man and a woman are not enough to be considered witnesses. If you do not agree, you should turn to the court.

As long as it is not necessary, women do not have to breastfeed others' children. Otherwise, they need to know which children they were breastfeeding.

If two women mix their milk and feed a baby with it, they will both become his wet nurses. [St. Ibni Âbidin says: It is a necessary obligation to breastfeed an infant until it is fed with infant formula. It is recommended to breastfeed him up to the age of two afterwards. Breastfeeding an infant is permitted up to the age of two and a half years.] After this age, breastfeeding is prohibited unless necessary.

If a woman's milk is less than half present in a mixture of water or animal milk or medicine, she must not be a wet nurse due to the feeding of an infant. She is also not allowed to be a wet nurse if she feeds an infant with her milked milk after the composition of her milk has been somehow changed.

A woman who has an illegitimate child may be appointed as a wet nurse. However, it is better to oblige a woman who has a legitimate child to do so.

If a girl who is not younger than 9 years old produces milk and an infant is breastfed, she is considered a wet nurse for that child. If a woman breastfeeds a three-year-old boy and a one-year-old girl, they are not considered milk siblings. They are allowed to marry each other. You are not allowed to marry the daughter of your milk sister. This also applies to the girl whose wet nurse is his milk sister. You can marry the mother of your milk siblings, whose wet nurse is your own mother. You can marry your mother's milk brother or sister. A man can marry his children's wet nurse. Someone can marry their uncle's daughter or her milk sister. You can marry your siblings' wet nurse or their milk sister. Nobody is allowed to marry their mother's wet nurse. You can marry the daughter of the wet nurse of your nephews or nieces. Nobody is allowed to marry their nurse's sister. You can marry the daughter of your children's wet nurse. Nobody is allowed to marry the girl who was breastfed by his milk sister. Nobody is allowed to marry girls who are considered to be the milk siblings of the children of their sister or brother. One can marry the sister of those who are considered to be the milk sister of his children. A woman cannot marry a man whose father is her wet nurse's husband, even though the man's mother is not considered to be her wet nurse.

The oath of the unbeliever or the apostate is not valid.

O believer! After your son learns his religion and begins worshiping, he must prepare for a job. In order for him to learn a trade such as trade, you must send him to a professional who is a morally righteous Muslim. Do not wish that your son would be very rich, but that he would become moral, docile, pious, and godly. Islam commands one to practice a profession. In our time, all nations place great value on handicrafts and trade and ensure that their children learn them from scratch. Other professions are also valuable. You must also teach your son the commandments of Islam regarding the professions to protect him from the forbidden.


160 - As long as it is not necessary, do not go through the alleys of the city district. Never visit the places where you drink alcohol, play games of chance, dance, watch the dancer and musician! And never send your family members to such places. Such places are called Sin society. Never look at a girl or woman, whether or not they are dressed inappropriately. Anyone who sees a girl but does not look at her because it is forbidden will be rewarded like a martyr.

Don't approach a girl or woman. You can tell at first glance whether she belongs to your family. At first sight, you are not committing any sin. But if you look at them several times, you are committing sin. St. Ali, blessings from Allaah, the Blessed, be with him, said: "In my life I have never looked at women lustfully." Looking at women lustfully is the sin of the eyes. One should regret it and not do it again. Do not interfere in all things; misfortune hits you or you are slandered.