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Tenderness and kind words to say goodbye

When a person is terminally ill, it is important that someone is close. Here on the page you can read why the tender touch and the kind words when saying goodbye are so important - for the dying and those left behind.

Physical closeness and security

Sensitive, comforting words

Longing for security on the deathbed

When a person is dying, approaching death, he should not be alone. Then he needs more than security. He receives this security through the closeness of his loved ones. In the face of near death, the longing for human closeness grows. This longing pervades not only the dying person, but also the people who accompany the dying person.


Gestures of closeness in the dying situation

Being close occurs primarily through physical contact. Love words are also meaningful, but the touch gives hold; it cannot be replaced by words.

Hugging the dying person and hugging each other in a circle of mourning, squeezing, holding, caressing and laying on the hand - these are gestures that develop wordless comforting power.

The missed loving farewell

As a pastor I keep meeting people who suffer from the fact that they were too sparing with these signs of love when someone left their side.

They would have liked to hug or stroke the dying person, or at least shake hands or say a few lovely words. But while you had the opportunity, you missed it.

This leaves the bereaved with the oppressive feeling that they cannot make up for these failures; because the person to whom they would still like to show their closeness, their sadness and love is no longer there.


The missed reconciliation

Likewise, for a long time people reproach themselves for not having the strength to apologize, forgive and reconcile at the moment of their final farewell.

Perhaps there was an incident that had disturbed our relationship for a long time. You would have liked to have cleared up the situation, apologized yourself or forgave the other person. But then you hesitated too long or just couldn't jump over "your own shadow".

Next: Reconciliation on the deathbed


Reconciliation with the dying

Do not hesitate on your deathbed!

Almost everything in life can be made up for and made up for and made up for. Because you can always turn back and start over. But when it comes to a dying person there is a "too late". What is owed to her is very difficult to submit beyond the boundary between life and death.

When someone around you is about to die, do not wait with the signs of closeness and the gestures of love. It's never too early for that, but quickly too late.

If there has been a disagreement in the past between you and the person who is now gone forever, saying goodbye is the last opportunity to make up. Do not miss this one!


Express wishes as the dying!

It is even harder for a dying person himself to ask for a hug, a handshake, or a sentence of forgiveness.

But if you get into this situation, don't be afraid. If you still have the strength to do so, make it easier for the parting party to overcome their emotional reticence with words like these:

"Hug me again, please!"

"Hold me tight!"

"Let yourself be pushed!"

"Let me embrace you!"

Consolation cannot be deeper and more loving!

People in situations of farewell, death and grief meet the old wise woman as well as the little prince. A handy book with new touching wisdom stories and poems to comfort, to wish condolences and texts for the organization of the funeral service. Available in bookshops everywhere.

Love will be, eternal love, what else!

Dear words on your deathbed

Gestures and gestures that give comfort and support are particularly important in the farewell situation. I have described that above. These tender actions can be complemented and reinforced with good words.

Thank you, comfort, forgive and bless with free, own words

Much of the Bible was written in existential situations such as hardship, flight, imprisonment, illness and death. Such biblical texts are eternally valid and express sadness, fear, despair, thanksgiving, comfort and hope.

In moving life situations, these biblical consolation texts are particularly suitable for addressing the human soul. Nevertheless, they are not the first and most important thing in farewell situations.

The words spoken between a dying person and those left behind should not initially come from books. Not even from the "Book of Books". The person personally is now in demand. So let your heart speak!

A few words are enough, like the following.

This is what mourners can say to the dying person:

I am with you / I will stay with you!

I do not leave you!

I hold you!

I love you!

Nothing can really separate us!

We dont forget you!

You will always be in our hearts!

Let's be good to each other again!

I forgive you!

Forgive me for being so selfish sometimes!

All is well between us now!

The blessing of God be with you!

God's abundant blessings be with you!

This is how the dying person can speak:

Do not forget me!

Nice that you are with me!

You are the dearest thing I have!

Thank you for your love!

Thank you for everything!

Now I can go confidently!

Do not forget me!

God be with you with his blessing!

From somewhere, somehow, I'll look down on you!

... but it's nice when you say more!

The following pages give you text examples for speaking on your deathbed. They are suggestions for your own words of thanks, comfort, reconciliation and blessing. There are also sections from the Bible and texts that we wrote for the farewell situation.

Here at Abschiedstrauer.de you will find many texts on the various pages that are also suitable for reading on your deathbed. We recorded some of the lyrics - spoken to musical accompaniment - you can listen to the lyrics and pieces of music here.

On the next pages 2 to 5 I give you texts for the farewell. Such words can be used by those left behind to speak to a dying person. Conversely, a person facing death can say goodbye to loved ones in this way.

More chapter "Accompanying the dying"

2 Review / thanks

3 Consoling / Strengthening

4 reconciliation

5 Blessing / Farewell

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